Why You Need to Share A Calendar With Your Partner
Let’s face it, we all live in this digital age, and some of us don’t utilize the technology around us as much as we should be. A major digital tool we use to improve our marriage is our calendars. We like to think of our digital calendars as the first line of communication between us as a married couple.
I want to paint a little mental picture for you in order to help you understand what we call the “layers of communication”. This is a super simplified idea of how the communication between partners can be optimized.
Communication layers
Monthly schedule check in
Weekly “double check”
Calendar diligence
Pre-schedule communication
This can certainly look daunting, and for good reason. When all of these are in a list, it looks like a big to-do list for us to accomplish every month. It also looks like it will be redundant, and to an extent some of these checks will be.
The beauty of having all of these points of contact as a couple is that every point can be short and sweet. I’m not telling you to sit and spend an hour every month, week, and day talking about your schedule.
Okay… Now to understand the purpose behind all of these Couples check-ins. We believe that it's nearly impossible to over communicate with your partner. We also know for a fact that a large majority of marital disputes come from bad communication.
This little checklist above is simply to nip the super simple issues that can be avoided by quick schedule collaboration in the butt.
The idea is that we look at our month as a big overview to see if there are events that were scheduled months ago that we may have forgotten about. Then we look at each week together to make sure we are on the same page with what each of us has going on individually and together. Finally, both of us, as a team, need to be on top of adding events to the calendar when they come up, whether or not our spouse is involved in said event.
None of us is going to be perfect at scheduling things, checking in with our partner, or simply using the right words when talking to each other. We just want every one of you to have one more tool in your toolbox in order to reduce stress, and conflict with your significant other.
Try it out this month and let us know how it went either by sending us an email, or commenting on any one of our posts wherever you follow us!
